You see what you seek.
What have you been looking for lately?
Are you looking for your job to change like the last one did after a few months of bliss? Are you looking for that girl to start acting like your ex did? Are you waiting with anxiety for the next tragedy to take place?
Or are you looking forward to opening doors, new opportunities, kinder people, and happiness?
It's necessary that we focus on the things we want because subconsciously those are the things we hold onto - good, bad, or in between.
Stop complaining about your losses. They happened. All of us have experienced some level of loss, but what will it take for you to turn the loss into a triumph?
You can't change what's already been done. You can only move forward and keep the cycle from repeating itself.