You want to know your problem? You could have a crowd cheering around you but you still manage to spot out the only enemy.
What if I told you that 99.999999% of your frustration comes from focusing on the wrong things? Would you believe me? Consider the last time you got angry in traffic. Did it keep you from getting to your destination? Was anyone hurt or harmed? If not, why let it impact you emotionally? The answer is simple: you’re not focused. I’ve found the secret to being unbothered and that’s staying focused. I’m not saying to ignore your emotions. I’m saying don’t let them control you. Next time try thinking or saying out loud “Wow that was really rude , but everyone is safe and I’m still in route to where I need to be”. Our brains need that level of reassurance sometimes also known as emotional deregulation. It’s like when a toddler falls and cries just because they fell. Then the reassuring parent comes over and says “Hey, you’re okay.” All of a sudden, voila, the baby is back to playing and being happy again. The same way we must refocus our brains on the positivity happening that is pushing us closer and closer to where we need to be. Some people want to be hated on so bad instead of focusing on all the support and love they get. Keep the end destination in mind and you'll keep the frustration to a minimum.
Gabriella Payne builds teams and communities through inspiration and strategic confidence development. She works with universities, athletic groups, and corporations to help students and recent graduates transform their mental thought patterns by teaching new, healthier habits. She is also an advocate for healthy relationships and teaches a series called "See It Coming".