Stop fighting for people who don't fight for you.
It took me 22 years to figure this out, and it’s still a principle I struggle with. I am always being the glue that holds friendships and relationships together. I am always the person fighting to make people a priority. Within the past year I decided I had to stop doing that. By nature, I hold on to the things that matter to me — but there is a difference between holding on and clinging on. You should never be the only person fighting to make time, space, or energy in a relationship. That includes friends, family, and romantic relationships. The one person you must fight for? You. Your sanity. Your health. Your well-being. Never let this cold world change you into a taker, but be sure that when you give you also give to yourself.
Gabriella Payne builds teams and communities through inspiration and strategic confidence development. She works with universities, athletic groups, and corporations to help students and recent graduates transform their mental thought patterns by teaching new, healthier habits. She is also an advocate for healthy relationships and teaches a series called "See It Coming".