All criticism is not created equal. Take some, leave some.
This past Tuesday in Toastmasters I was harshly criticized by someone I did not know. I sat there with the best poker face I could and tried to take it all in without being defensive. It was shocking. I guess what bothered me was that they failed to see any good, and quite frankly I don’t like that. There is always something good about starting, even if you don't do the best.
However, I am going to read their comments (eventually 😒😂), to see if there is anything I can apply to get better.When you’re being critiqued be sure to take the emotion out of it and focus on the facts. Always aim to do and be better.
Also, remember that some advice is best not heard, so when it comes to taking advice consider if your critic has the expertise to help you to improve.
When you’re doing the critiquing, remember that people have feelings. Start off with what is going well, give a few things they can improve on, and finish up with a final conclusion by encouraging them and letting them know they are progressing.
Gabriella Payne builds teams and communities through inspiration and strategic confidence development. She works with universities, athletic groups, and corporations to help students and recent graduates transform their mental thought patterns by teaching new, healthier habits. She is also an advocate for healthy relationships and teaches a series called "See It Coming".